Much of this angst can be eliminated by
helping your baby learn to sleep independently. A baby who sleeps who
sleeps independently is usually a baby who sleeps through the night and
takes nice, long naps on a consistent basis. Enabling your baby to
learn how to sleep better should be a simple and gentle process, and
most often your baby even have to shed a tear. This article will
provide you with some important tips from the baby sleep book, Sleep
Baby Sleep, and will help get you started on your way to having a
better sleeping baby and a well-rested house.
#1 Establish a Consistent Nighttime Routine
One important aspect to getting your
baby to sleep through the night is to have a consistent bedtime ritual.
A solid evening routine will help your child understand that it is time
for sleep when the routine is complete. A typical schedule might
include a bath, some quiet time, a final feeding, and then a good-night
kiss. Though your particular routine may vary, it is important make
sure you have some kind of consistency at bedtime.
#2 Help your Baby Learn how to Fall Asleep Independently
Each time your baby is ready to sleep,
no matter what time of day or night it is, you have a brand new
opportunity to help your baby learn how to fall asleep without your
help. If you try your hardest to seize each of these opportunities,
your baby will be sleeping through the night sooner than you can
believe. Keep in mind though that this is a process, and not an
overnight miracle. Be consistent in your efforts and you will quickly
teach your baby how to fall asleep without your help.
#3 Put your Baby to Sleep Awake
If you get only one idea from this
article, it’s that you need to try to put your baby to sleep while he
is still awake. In other words, try to avoid having your baby fall
asleep before you put him down. Be sure that your routine includes
putting your baby in the crib or bassinet before she is asleep. If you
put your baby to bed awake, she will more readily learn how to fall
asleep without your help and your baby will sleep much better.
#4 Establish a Daytime Nap Routine
Sometimes figuring out a good daytime
routine can be even more challenging than the one at bedtime. Out of
sheer exhaustion and the desire to get a few minutes to yourself, you
might be inclined to do absolutely anything to get your baby down for a
nap. The problem with this is that your baby will begin to need that
particular method in order to nap (for example, driving around,
rocking, nursing, etc). You won’t be happy if your baby can only take a
nap in the car, or nap only if you lie down beside her, or only if you
rock her to sleep. Instead, try to get your baby napping by falling
asleep alone, and you’re likely to wind up with a great little sleeper
on your hands.
#5 The Family Bed – should you or shouldn’t you?
A family bed is not a bad thing, and
many families the world over would have it no other way. If it’s
something you want and have planned for, then by all means do it! On
the other hand, if you have wound up with a family bed only because
your baby cannot fall asleep any other way, then it might time to
rethink your situation. A family bed could last for years, and if
unwanted, often results in frustration and resentment and chronic sleep
deprivation.
#6 Waking up Throughout the Night
Most, if not all, babies wake up several
times throughout the night. Even a baby who is already sleeping through
the night wakes up numerous times during the night. The key is that if
your baby knows know how to fall back to sleep on his own, he won’t
need you to put him back to sleep. So, don’t rush in as soon as your
baby wakes up in the middle of the night. Instead, give it some time
and you might be pleasantly surprised to find that your baby falls back
to sleep on his own.
#7 Getting Baby on a Schedule
Most people thrive on some sort of a
schedule, and babies are no different. Your child is likely to function
much better if he becomes familiar with the same events that happen
throughout the day. If you get your baby on a schedule with a regular
agenda, she will quickly figure out when it is time for sleep and will
fall asleep much easier. Keep in mind though that everyone needs a
little flexibility built into their life, so make sure that you are not
too inflexible with your baby’s daily routine.
#8 Avoid using Aids to Help your Baby Sleep
Many exhausted parents resort to
external aids to get their babies sleeping (for example, constantly
using a pacifier, driving your baby around, and rocking or nursing your
baby to sleep). Though your baby might initially fall asleep sleep
quicker with these external aids, you are ultimately making your job
much more difficult. The problem is that it helps you avoid teaching
your baby how to fall asleep alone. Instead, take the time to get your
baby falling asleep without any help, and he will fall asleep faster
and sleep better.
#9 Be Consistent
The more regular you are in how you put
your baby to sleep, the quicker and easier it will be for your child to
learn how to sleep independently. No matter how tired you are, or how
much you might be dreading the night ahead, a consistent effort will
pay off quickly. Be patient with yourself, as it is not always easy to
keep with your plan when you are intensely sleep deprived. Just be as
consistent as possible, and you will see results.
#10 Take Time for Yourself
It’s so easy to forget about yourself
when you have a new baby. But playing the parent role 24/7, and having
no time of your own could cause you to grow resentful and feel
deprived. Instead, make a conscious effort to ensure that you get some
time for yourself. You’ll feel rejuvenated, happier, and you’ll have
more energy to devote to your family. You can and will be an amazing
parent even though you get a little bit of downtime, and there’s no
better time to do it than when your baby is sleeping soundly. Enabling
your baby to sleep independently is truly a priceless gift that you’ll
give to everyone under your roof. Your baby will be much happier if he
is better rested, and so will you!
written by: Tammy Hussin